What's so f*cking exhausting is you will be vilified and bullied no matter how you behave as a woman. Are you too soft? You will get bullied. Did someone catch you crying? They'll try to make you cry every time they see you. Too loud and assertive? Well then you're being ghetto or masculine. If you are conventionally pretty you'll be harassed. If you don't fit some random guys idea of what a woman should look like...well, they will definitely let you know loudly and clearly that you are an undesirable woman who should make an effort to be such.

There is no way to win. Women are not the ones who need to change. The rules are stupid, random, and completely arbitrary.