Well you have a choice to make. You want a relationship with your mom. She wants a one -sided relationship with people who don’t give a hot damn whether she is alive or dead. They will use her either way.

You love her, and care about her. I don’t think you need to break her property, or bust into her house, but you got to have priorities. Which is more important? That you feel ethically pure? Or having a relationship with your mom again?