Well, if its any consolation at all, my very first thought was not a white guy, (and no I do not believe that Idris Elba is too handsome, for that list.) The first image that popped into my head was a Black man (Yahya Abdul Mateen), and the second was an Asian man (Don Lee).

But I get it. You're either treated like a fetish, or simply ignored or erased, and there doesnt seem to be any in-between state. How does that affect Black men's emotional state, I wonder.