Thank you for writing this! It was exceptionally eye opening, and heartbreaking, and I appreciate it.

I admit, as a believer in Feminist ideology, male on male violence did occur to me, but not like this. In essence what you’ve described is a minority of the populace, toxic and damaged, that bullies and intimidates all the rest of us, and it is particularly hideous for men, as it’s so incredibly arbitrary and random for them, and could happen literally anywhere, and starts in childhood, and I don’t think women have followed this line of thought far enough. This is problem that cannot be solved by only focusing on how it affects women.

Women do need to think abut this (although it really would be helpful if men discussed this topic more), about how all our lives are not what they should, and could be, because of severely damaged men. I think you are right. So much of this damage starts in childhood. Men who find that bullying other men doesn’t work for them, as they age, will go on to hurt others they think can’t fight back, namely the women and children closest to them, who can’t simply escape. Women need to acknowledge that violence against women starts in childhood, with violence against other males first.

The question is how in the world do we interrupt that progression?

Also, do you have any resources that discuss the progression of violence for men from childhood to adulthood?