Thank you for calling this out. One of the most frustrating aspects, of well meaning white people, is their inability to admit that there is a subset of white people, who not only take malicious glee in witnessing black pain, they enjoy causing it as often as possible. It’s one of the reasons we keep having to explain to these people over and over again why they can’t say the N*word. They know why, but having us explain it again, and again, brings us emotional pain, and they like that.

Another example I like to use are the people who, when they hear that some aspect of whiteness is emotionally harmful to us, take pleasure in trying to reproducing that pain over and over. Like a playground bully who finds out his victim’s mother just died, who will mock the victim’s mother at every opportunity, because they KNOW it hurts them.

Several years ago there was a glut of news stories about black people finding nooses in unexpected places. Hearing black people’s outcry about it, a subset of white people decided it would be funny to copy it, and subsequently, black people were finding nooses at their jobs and schools. Hoping we were hurt by that was the point.

My frustration results from other white people’s inability to admit that such people cannot be reasoned with, talked to, or brought around. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved, and sadly we have actually reached the point where a lot of white people are learning this first hand, but only after it almost cost us our Democracy.