Not trying to hijack your discussion here, but I think there's a much more insidious, racial component to this entire discussion. Not that this sort of thing isn't happening to Black women, becasue I've experienced people making statements to me, too, but there is the underlying conspiracy theory idea, from too many white men, of "white genocide". This idea that white people will be extinct in a few decades, and that white women need to step up, and save their race. I find it difficult to believe that this isn't a factor in their anger. They don't appear to be directing that anger at women of color for having, or not having, kids (at least not more than they usually do). There is a contingent of them directing their anger, solely, at white women, who refuse to make babies.

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White genocide is a myth,[22][23][15] based on pseudoscience, pseudohistory, and hatred,[24] driven by a psychological panic often termed "white extinction anxiety".[25][16] There is no evidence that white people are dying out or facing extermination.[26][27][28][21] The purpose of the conspiracy theory is to scare white people,[26] and justify a commitment to a white nationalist agenda[29] in support of increasingly successful calls to violence.[22][20][19]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_genocide_conspiracy_theory