No!

As a Black woman, the answer is a resounding NO!

I have observed that it’s incredibly easy for white, and non-Black poc, to sit and break bread with people who not only are willing to give a pass to people who would happily harm people like me, but espouse a different reality all together.

We’re not talking about sugar in grits, or jelly vs jam. We’re talking about having standards, boundaries, and principles.

Note: I just want to add to this answer. I received a lengthy response from this person to try to convince me of their viewpoint, mostly using politics, and historical arguments, on why we need to give a pass to people with the most loathsome opinions.

In my response, I simply reiterated what I said here, and would have had more to say, until I looked at the person’s profile, and discovered they were a virulent transphobe. (Ironically, one of the examples I used in my response, before I knew about that, was about not putting my transgender friends in the company of transphobic people, yvbecause I’m willing to consider such people to be my friends.) Ultimately, I considered their argument to be so utterly self serving, I was disgusted by it, and it bothered me enough to write this.

No wonder she’s okay with being friends who hold loathsome views of marginalized people, since she holds such views herself, and seek to excuse it in both others and herself, with her arguments.