I have never understood the “not all men”, or frankly “not all” argument to anything, when people talk about some issue that personally affects them! Because the point of talking about our lived experiences isn’t “how many people actually do it”. It doesn’t matter to me, one damn bit, if only one, or four, white people in a room, are racist towards me, because it only takes one of them to ruin my whole day!

It could be one out of ten people doing whatever, but the point is that NO ONE should be doing the deed at all. It doesn’t need to be all men for women to feel unsafe! It only takes one, or three, or even just a small percentage of them, that prey on women, to make us suspect EVERY man! We keep trying to tell men, that we cannot simply look at a man, and tell if he’s going to be “our rapist” next week, or that night….

I’ll like to use the analogy of the bowl of poisoned candy. You have a bowl of 100 pieces of candy. It could be any kind. At least one, and possibly as many, as three or ten, pieces of candy, in the bowl, is made of cyanide, and looks indistinguishable from the normal candy. How willing are you to take a chance on NOT getting one of the poisonous ones, if you grab a handful?

The one caveat to this is the bowl of candy is passive. It’s just gonna sit there. Those pieces of cyanide are not out of the bowl actively hunting for victims!

(For those not paying attention), it doesn’t matter how many of them are poisonous, because it doesn’t have to be all the candy for me to not eat any of it.