I can grok this. I had a “friend” like this in college .I watched her treat the ppl who weren’t important to her pretty badly, I just didn’t think it would ever be me. This was my first run in with a true narcissist.

Luckily, I had a good support group, who had always seen through her, and they helped me through the breakup. I definitely learned from it and have been pretty good about spotting those toxic ppl ever since.