Girl, (if that is the proper pronoun), we are ALL just f*cking “tahd”, (as my grandma used to say).

This exact question is, not surprisingly, a parallel to the question that everyone in marginalized communities often ask ourselves, too. Why can’t we just be left alone to mind our own business? Why we gotta be sought out to be bothered?

These same type of men always have something to say about anything people do. They can’t seem to leave anybody alone, and insist on policing the lives of regular people who are just going about their business.

I’ve seen this happen so many times. A gay couple is minding their business, on the street, only to be ambushed by a gang of straight men. A black man jogs through his neighborhood, to be shot by a gang of white good ol’ boys. A woman on her way to work gets harassed and stalked on public transportation. For men like this, the internet is simply a convenient new platform from which to threaten people they don’t like, and want to dominate, especially when they used to have to do their smackdowns of “lesser people”, in person.

I’ve come to the conclusion that it must be about dominance and control, since that’s what motivates so much of that type of behavior. In the minds of such men, marginalized people, all people who are different from them, MUST be brought to heel, and/or constantly reminded, no matter where they are, or what they’re doing, of their place in the pecking order of humanity.

The fuel of their resentment is our refusal to acknowledge that there is one.