Brave of you to not think that these women voted for him for exactly the reasons you stated. They may be as narcissistic as him, and like him, simply not care about such things.

From all I’ve read and seen, one of the primary components of being a trump supporter seems to be because he’s cruel to people they don’t like, and have been told for decades are their enemies, and they’re gleeful that the things he says and does makes marginalized people frightened, and angry. How do you treat with people like that? How do we forgive that?

I don’t wish harm on them, because I don’t want to become them, because what they are, and what they believe is disgusting. As a black woman though, I’m still horribly traumatized by the things their man said, and did, to our community, and I’m not ready to “take the high road” and forgive them, and frankly, I don’t think that will ever happen.

Women who voted for trump saw what was happening, and cheered it. I don’t care if the election is over, I will not forgive them, I don’t care what they say their reasons were (reasons which could only be self serving anyway.) They had plenty of opportunities, in the past four years, to be better people, and instead ran cheerfully towards being their worst possible selves. And did so at the expense of those who look like me. These women are no different than the women who screamed into Ruby Ridges face, as she made her way to school, or who picnicked watching burning Black bodies.

I will never be able to trust the kind of women who cheered the trauma and destruction of people like me, and they cannot be trusted, until they’ve put in the work that shows they’ve changed.

To the women who stood their ground the last four years, and listened to their better natures, it’s a low bar, but you still have my gratitude, because at the very least you didn’t contribute to the trauma of marginalized people, even though the dominant society was urging you to do so.